How we match
Our provision of profiles to members is based on our matching philosophy of introductions which is simple yet effective
So let’s talk about How we match? Our biggest and prime concern when considering initially how we match members together is making sure we are able to provide you a large choice. We aim to give you as much choice as possible, based on years of both professional and personal experience, and is that more often than not, the most unlikely people end up in a successful relationship. This is further supported by expensive research by some of the larger matching agencies showing that when people are looking for a special person they come with a specific criteria of a, b and c. What they actually found is they often began a relationship with people who had the characteristics of c, d and e. The resulting factor is that often people’s ‘wish list’ is not always a perfect match for them and for this reason we don’t match members on their specific criteria e.g. interests, marital status, likes, dislikes etc. We make sure this information is offered in each individuals profile so that our members can make up their own minds about each person sent to them. This enables members to make their minds up on the information provided on a whole. Our only criteria is age, this eliminates someone who is 75 receiving a profile of a 25 year old and if you are 30, you will not receive a profile for someone who is 60 (unless you want to!). You are also in control of your age bracket and we recommend at least 5 years either side of your own age, however the larger the age bracket you select, the more profiles you will receive.
How we match and the success rate behind our matching philosophy
Our matching system is further supported by the large number of successful relationships and marriages by members who have met through us. In retrospect many of them would NOT have even had each other’s details had we taken in to account factors such as location, marital status, occupation, height, smoking etc. Many people who have been successful through us have at some point stated that they don’t want x and they are not willing to compromise, and then they have happily gone on to pursue a relationship or got married with a person who has x. Successful relationships are all about compromise and we have literally hundreds of examples of this – and although this is hard to grasp when you are at the early stages of ‘looking’, it is true. Ask your happily married friends and family and we’re sure they’ll agree.
Why do we it this way? Is straightforward really. Everyone has an image in their mind’s eye of who their perfect match would be, but that is all it is, a picture. It is a frame of mind. The change begins when you actually meet actual people, not just the profile on the paper, but the actual person that is there, in front of you and they have a trait that maybe they didn’t think to write in their profile e.g. They have impeccable manners, they are truly kind or just something that you can’t put your finger on that makes your heart pound and your stomach turn in to butterflies. This is when the prepossessed image you head of Mr or Mrs Perfect starts to blur and you realise that your image may be changing. We could put it really simply and in Disney terms, just think of ‘Beauty and the Beast’, it is only when Belle truly gets to know Beast that she falls in love and her first impressions are in the distant past.Based on all of the research, experience and knowledge that we have it means that we do not have a ‘computer’ limiting your options. It would actually be completely unfair of us to do this and when we think back, we would certainly not have been so successful with the relationships and marriages that have been created through us. On the flip side, you will receive a large number of profile who may not seem at all suitable at first glance. But you should always remember that a profile is only a snap-shot that person and it certainly doesn’t tell the whole story of who that person actually is.
Our profiles
The heart of our organisation is our members, and the profile we write for you is unique and can be updated at any time. Your profile forms the basis of how you come across to other members.
We have two types of profile.. They don’t affect how we match our members together but definitely affect how contacts who!
A Standard Profile – this profile is written based on the answers you give on your application form. We tie together all of your answers, keeping as much of the terminology you use as this will reflect a much truer picture of who you are. We try not to use our words otherwise might end up sounding the same!
An Enhanced profile – This entails an half an hour structured telephone interview with you, discussing your life, your interests, and beliefs. This then enables us to write a much more informed and comprehensive profile for you, still using your terminology to reflect the real you. This enhanced profile tends to make members really stand out from the crowd.
You can see an example below of how the two different profiles look and the type of information they may include. Each membership offers a minimum of two profile photo’s with the option of having up to six. Should you wish to include all six photos, this then enables you to reflect more of the person that you are and will really help make your profile stand out. Many people do include photos however there are a few who don’t but it is entirely your choice.
Example of a standard profile
Our enhanced profile service
In the profiles below we show you how Anthony’s profile looked as a standard profile and then how it read as an enhanced profile.
Enhanced profiles are not always necessarily longer, although they may be in some instances.
The Standard Profile
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The Enhanced Profile
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How to be the One
Serious about relationships - then this book is for you!
How to be the One
Serious about relationships - then this book is for you!